Continuing our conversation about Spiritual Bypass…A quick review. Spiritual Bypass is the very common, but unconscious use of spiritual disciplines/practices/beliefs to avoid the difficult process

Last week, in writing about Spiritual Bypass, I stated, when we numb out negative thoughts and feelings, even if our conscious intent is to be

Last week I wrote about conscious and unconscious experience and about how we humans know only in part who we are. For devout people who

In 1986 when Bon Jovi had the #1 song, Livin’ on a Prayer, about Tommy and Gina trying to make it by loving each other

One of the first and continuing gifts of psychological study to the healthy practice of spirituality is the overarching concept of the division of our

Several years ago, I took a 7-day silent retreat. The first thing my spiritual director instructed me to do on retreat was to sleep. I

Neuroscience has been helping us understand more fully how our brains work in fascinating and sometimes troubling ways. We process the information that coming to

To forgive someone is a gift. It is not dependent on a good apology or improved behavior. Often when we think about forgiving our focus

One reason many of us struggle to forgive, particularly in Christian circles, is that we avoid conflicts rather than facing them. In the process of

In the secular psychological literature on forgiving there is a distinction drawn between forgiving and reconciliation. Researchers point out that we can let go of